The First 10 Days: Proceeding as if Success Were Inevitable

Think about the last time you embarked on a big project or started working toward a major goal. How did you feel? Excited? Nervous? Overwhelmed? Calm? Confident? Maybe it was a combination of some or all those emotions, or, maybe it was a different feeling. Chances are, though, if it meant something to you, there were strong feelings involved.

In my last blog post, I announced for the first time that I am writing a book. At the time I wrote that post, I had several pages of notes and a working title, but I hadn’t officially started writing it. That changed over the last 10 days, when I developed a comprehensive outline on September 1 and then launched into content on Labor Day.

My Labor Day bike ride was full of reflection because launching into the writing feels momentous. I know there is a great deal of work ahead of me, and I have a lot to learn about publishing and even about the differences between writing a blog or an essay and writing a book. Yet, I realize that I feel calm and confident, as well as excited and encouraged. There are several reasons why.

I have a couple of mantras running through my head. One is Marie Forleo’s “Everything is figureoutable.” (I am really looking forward to reading her just-released book by that name.) I trust that I will be able to figure out the things I need learn about the publishing process. Somehow, I believe it will work out. I will learn what I need to learn. It helps me to remember that there are many, many books in existence and that all authors were once first-time authors. If they can do it, I can do it.

Another mantra that really helps me believe that I can do this is Ann Lamott’s reminder that “A page a day is a book a year.” My life is VERY full. As I said in my last post, I am choosing to keep that fullness during this season of life. I may choose differently at some point, but, right now, there is no “spare” time (whatever that is). So, I could let myself become overwhelmed and think, “How can I even think about writing a book when I am so busy?’ Instead, I am calmed and reassured by heeding Lamott’s advice and setting a rough goal of writing a page a day. That seems doable. Even so, I am making some modifications to that goal. For instance, there are some days when it may be truly impossible to write at all. So, I will average seven pages a week, making up for lost days on Saturday and/or Sunday. I will also use some days for editing sections. All in all, I have set a loose goal of completing the writing in a year.

Much of the time, it is wise to set a “firm” deadline or target date for completing a project or achieving a goal. This feels different, though, because it is important to me to keep this a joyful project. That doesn’t mean it will be stress free or blissful every moment, but I don’t think I have much to gain by adding time pressure. I realize that there could be reasons to tighten up my deadline, as I learn more about publishing. For right now, this feels good.

There is value for me in writing publicly about this goal. When you launch a new endeavor, do you share your goal with others, or do you keep it to yourself? I do both, depending on the goal. Some people need to talk about their goal because they need external accountability. That is not the case for me. As an Upholder, according to Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies, I respond favorably to both internal and external expectations, meaning that I keep promises I make to myself, as well as those I make to others. I don’t need to feel obligated to another person or group to make sure I do what I say I am going to do. If you haven’t taken Rubin’s quiz, I encourage you to use the link above and take it to help you determine if you would benefit from having some external accountability when you take on a big goal.

In his popular TED Talk, Derek Sivers explains that there is some evidence that talking about our goals makes it less likely that they will be achieved because we experience a surge of satisfaction just by talking about them. There is gratification because we receive social acknowledgement when people respond positively to our pursuit of a goal. He recommends either not talking about our goals or talking about them in ways that minimize gratification. Instead of saying, “I am going to lose 10 pounds,” you could tell a friend or a coach, “I really want to lose 10 pounds, and I need you to scold me if you see me eating something I shouldn’t.” From the first time I heard or read this perspective on sharing goals, I was hesitant to buy in to it. It just didn’t resonate with me. Maybe that is because I am an Upholder. This may be a worthwhile consideration for those who have a different tendency. What has been your experience? Do you benefit from the accountability of sharing a goal, or have you experienced the phenomenon Sivers describes?

My husband Kenny has talked about how he felt when he was training to ride his bike across the United States in 1995, four years before we met. He told all the important people in his life. He said doing so created pressure, and it got to the point when he was just ready to get started and stop talking about it. He doesn’t indicate that he would do anything differently, just that it felt like pressure because so many people knew what he was working toward. Maybe that was a form of accountability for him.

For me the value of sharing my goal is that it makes it feel real. I am putting it out there for the Universe to support me and to position myself to start living as someone who is writing a book. I could do that in secret, too, but putting it out there feels a bit courageous. Of course, there is no guarantee that I will be successful according to any particular definition of success, whether that is completing the manuscript, getting published or earning money from my book. Yet, I feel that I am honoring myself and my vision by stating my ambition and letting the world know about this aspect of my life.

In general, I like beginnings. They feel hopeful and loaded with possibility. That is how launching into my book writing feels. It reminds me of how I feel at the beginning of a long bike ride, early on a weekend morning, when there is a flurry of excitement in my belly as I imagine the adventure the ride could become. Do you experience a similar rush of excitement when you begin working toward a goal? How we channel that feeling makes a difference. It could be recognized as either excitement or fear because the neurological response is very similar.

What strategies do you use to position yourself for success in your big goals and dreams?

How do you stay calm and avoid overwhelm?

I recommend a calming mantra, like “Everything is figureoutable.” I also recommend breaking down a big project into bite-sized bits. If you need help doing that, a coach or trusted friend could serve as a guide to creating a manageable plan. Depending on your goal, scheduling time to work on your project may be a critical component.

Exercise is a longtime lifestyle for me. I always schedule it into my week and know when I will exercise and what I will do (ride my bike, practice yoga, strength train, etc.) each day. It is too important to leave to chance.  I am not formally scheduling my writing at this time. I am going to see how my “page-a-day” strategy works. I might reassess scheduling, if I find that I am not making the progress I desire.

It is also worth considering whether talking about your goal will help or hinder your chances of success. Do you need the accountability of a coach or workout buddy or friend? Do you need to publicly commit, so that you will feel embarrassed if you don’t follow through? Do you think you would be less likely to succeed if you experienced gratification by sharing what you are doing? Or, like me, is sharing your goal a way of honoring the validity of what you are doing and of welcoming the support of the Universe?

The next time you begin something big, take some time to consider what conditions best position you to achieve what you set out to achieve. In my health coach training, we were encouraged to “proceed as if success were inevitable.” Part of that is to start with the right conditions in place. Let me know how I can support you in living with no regrets by helping you establish the right circumstances and strategies for accomplishing what you what to accomplish. (sheri@justwindcoach.com)

Owning My “And”: Embracing My Intrapersonal Pluralism

Publishing this post feels a bit risky, knowing it could be read by anyone, but it also feels important to share. Although I had planned to continue my “Top 5” series a bit longer, I have decided to depart from it because I have been inspired lately with a greater understanding of myself that I believe can help others.

As an academic advisor for undergraduate college students, I frequently hear students say, sometimes with great angst, “I don’t know what I want to do!” Until very recently, while I have empathized with them and tried to reassure them that they have time to figure it out, I have felt like I was holding on to a dirty little secret: Neither did I.

I have done several different things throughout my career, mostly in higher education and nonprofit, and, to be honest, I have held shame and fear that I was “wishy-washy” and indecisive because I felt called in different directions. Many people my age have spent 20, 25 or 30 years in a single role, in a single field or a single institution, continuously moving into progressively higher positions. Although, collectively, I have spent around 12 years at the University (not including my time as a student and graduate assistant), it has been a bit of a zig-zag path. I know that I have done work that has mattered—advocating for and supporting people living with HIV in the 1990s, coordinating volunteers for the American Red Cross and assisting and teaching college students. I also took a few years away from work after my son was born (although I tried to start a couple businesses during that time). Partly because of the anguish I felt to find the right fit and contribute to the world in different ways, I pursued a second Master’s degree, which I completed eight years after earning my first.

I have been in this role as academic advisor since 2014. (To be fair, I am working in the same department where I earned my second Master’s degree.) I know I help students. I know I make a difference for them. I have liked this work from the beginning, and I am good at it. However, for the first few years, there were several issues that created a lot of stress and unhappiness for me. I was so disappointed when that turned out to be the case several months after starting this position. I already felt (especially after a disappointment when Red Cross restructured, causing me to leave there) like my career lacked coherence and that I hadn’t accomplished what I “should” have accomplished professionally. Struggling with shame, disenchantment and a sense of powerlessness, I decided to return to a goal that I had held during my last stint in grad school and when my son was little. I enrolled in health coach school and got certified as a health coach and life coach over the next year and a half. At the time, my plan was to build my business and then leave the University. I decided I wanted out, and I didn’t want to work for anyone ever again.

In October 2017, a few months before I completed my health coach training, it all came to a head for me at the University. The pressure that had been coming every semester, due to a difference in opinion with the College administration about how I should do my job, started again. I decided I had nothing to lose because I was really unhappy. So, I wrote an email, copied to several people in administration and to my department chair (who supported me) and set boundaries about what I was and was not willing to do and what I would no longer tolerate. It wasn’t a threat, but it was clear and direct.

An amazing thing happened. The pressure stopped. And my job improved. (This was a lesson in itself about having the courage to stand up for myself and what I believe is right.) I finished my coach training and set out to grow my business, and then the torment set in for me. I had promised myself that I would get certified, grow my business and then leave the University, but I suddenly felt myself struggling because I no longer really wanted to leave. However, I still wanted to grow my business, and I wanted to do other cool things.

What was wrong with me?!

I often felt like an imposter when I talked to my students and guided them on their career paths. I couldn’t even figure out my own!

This struggle persisted, waxing and waning over more than a year.

Recently, light has flooded in for me, though, and I want to share my insights because I no longer believe I am the only one who feels this way.

I have heard several thought leaders and coaches—Kristin Lajeneusse, Tess Challis, Marie Forleo—use the term “multipassionate” to describe people who are pulled in many different creative and professional directions. When I was first exposed to this idea during the summer of 2018, it didn’t fully resonate with me. I understood the concept, but I couldn’t embrace it as a description that fit and felt okay.

In the last couple months, though, I listened to Emilie Wapnick’s excellent book How to Be Everything: A Guide for Those Who (Still) Don’t Know What They Want to Be When They Grow Up. I happened to listen to David Epstein on Lewis Howe’s School of Greatness podcast right after listening to Emilie Wapnick’s book. Coinciding with this, I had the opportunity to attend an in-depth training on Clifton’s strengths at the University. I was not new to strengths, having participated in the University’s spring 2019 Leadership Book Club, which featured the book Strengths-Based Leadership. I had read it several years ago, and I have also been interested in Via Character Strengths for years.

However, this time, it all came together for me. My top-5 Clifton strengths are: Intellection, Input, Relator, Learner and Maximizer (Brief descriptions of these and the other 29 strengths here). As I learned more about these and thought about what I had heard from Wapnick and Epstein, I started receiving hits of inspiration and understanding on my bike. It was very exciting and very comforting. Emilie Wapnick uses the term “multipotentialite.” David Epstein talks about having a “range” of interests and activities. Wapnick offers many other possible labels and invites us to choose what works for us. Noting felt quite right, although the ideas I heard clicked. Because my best processing always occurs on my bike, I started toying with different descriptions while I rode. For a week or so, “multi-layered professional” seemed to be right. A couple weeks ago, though, I realized what really fits for me.

It is about owning my “and.” By this I mean that I was suddenly enveloped with self-acceptance and acknowledgement that what feels right for me in this season (to use a term I liked when I heard Rachel Hollis use it) of life is that I am an Academic Advisor, and I am developing an online course that I will start teaching in the spring, and I have a health and life coaching practice on the side and (going public with this for the first time—more to follow) I am writing a book. AND, I feel good about this, and I own it all.

On my bike a couple weeks ago, the term “intrapersonal pluralism” came to me and nestled in comfortably. To summarize briefly, my top five strengths mean that I am a thinker (Intellection)—very introspective. This is no surprise. I crave time in my head. I need it to survive. Having so little ability to escape noise and be alone in my head was one of the most difficult parts of becoming a mother for me. Additionally, “Input” means that I collect and organize things. For me, these are words, quotes, ideas, interests and ways to contribute in the world. As a Relator, I value and cultivate deep conversations and relationships and avoid small talk. The Learner in me MUST keep growing. And, as a Maximizer, I long to turn the “great into the superb.” All this feels true for me. And, having received the input from Wapnick and Epstein recently, it all came together. What I had perceived as lack of direction or wishy-washiness was just the way I was put together. It was how my very busy mind worked. I need to grow and contribute in many different ways. I suddenly felt that I could own my “and.”

The freedom this has given me feels so comforting. This has been such a struggle, and I have felt ashamed to express it to anyone.

“When life begins, God takes this huge jigsaw puzzle with a zillion pieces in it, messes it all up, and throws the pieces into a box called ‘your life.’ Most think the object of life is to painstakingly put that puzzle together with great solemnity–thinking that there is only one to make it fit. We’re all hoping to get that big prize at the end of the rainbow.

But the truth is, there are a zillion ways to put your puzzle together–and you get to make it up as you go along! From what I can tell, God often throws two or three puzzles in the same box, depending on what you need to learn at this particular point in time. . . And if we’re not having any fun putting it together, then it’s time to mess it up one more time and put the fun back in.” –Joel Rutledge

So, along with owning my “and,” I am owning my past shame. And, I am releasing it. Doing so has allowed me to use my new understanding to comfort and support two students already. I felt compelled to write this post because I would like to help others who may be facing a similar internal struggle. Maybe my lessons can shorten their suffering.

To use Rachel Hollis’ term for describing where I am in life, in this season, I am contentedly an academic advisor as my primary paying work. I feel like I want to settle in, help students and stay in this role “as long as love shall last,” maybe until retirement—possibly early retirement. We’ll see. I will add the online course because is an it is an opportunity to grow and learn. I have been amazed how much is involved in setting up this course. It all must be developed ahead of time and is quite different than my past in-person teaching experiences. I am going to be sharing a message that matters to me about Mind and Movement (I’ll share information about enrolling with my readers, once that becomes available.). I am still very clear that it is important to me to grow and evolve my coaching business. Maybe it will look different than I originally envisioned, and maybe it will change over time, but I am clear that I must do it. I am saving for a coaching experience of my own early next year, and I expect good things to come of it. And, the book has been calling to me on my bike and growing and becoming clearer and clearer in my mind. I thought that a book might be 10 years or so in the future. Now, I know I am supposed to start working on it. There is a message I need to share with the world, and the time has come to work toward that end.

Who knows how this will evolve and change in the next “season” of my life, or even when and what that will be?

So, for any of you who are (or who know) intrapersonal pluralists, I hope you can find peace, too. There are some of us who are just put together in such a way that we don’t decide what we want to be when we are six or 18 or 28 or 48. We want to be and do and experience a lot of things. We have so much to contribute in so many ways. (People who do pursue a single, linear career path make important differences in the world, too, of course.) Yes, we must pay the bills. The reality is that there are a lot of ways to do that honorably. We don’t have to choose just one in this season or in this lifetime. We may be busier than others. As long as we make room for the things that feed our souls—including work and creative projects that call us—I have come to realize this is okay.

As a coach, I help people live with no regrets. I aspire to do the same in my own life. I have released the baggage of shame and disappointment. Moving forward, I will own my “and.” I am no longer ashamed to have several interesting projects—including my full-time job—going on in my life. I recognize that honoring these interests is part of living with no regrets for me. I need to make room for them and embrace them fully. They are all part of how I am called to contribute to the creation of a healthier, more compassionate world.

My wish for my fellow intrapersonal pluralists is that you, too, can own your “and,” living it proudly into the world. We will all be richer for it. This requires creativity to figure out how best to combine all our interests and pursuits. One may be in the forefront during one season of life, while a different one may move into the lead during another. Some may run their course and move out of the lineup. Others may present themselves as we continue to learn and grow and are exposed to new ideas and opportunities.

We can’t do everything at once, so we have to consider honestly what we can make fit, if we should make it fit and if our current pursuits are aligned with our core values.

I have come to believe that intrapersonal pluralism may be as much a personality trait as introversion or extroversion. When we embrace it, rather than hide it in shame, we are richer humans, better able to make meaningful contributions to the world.

“Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what you needed it to be. Don’t think you’ve lost time. There is no short-cutting to life. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.” –Asha Tyson

My Top 5 Tips for Reaping the Benefits of Journaling

Sometimes I have to write to think. This isn’t always true. I do my very best thinking on my bike. But, I do my second-best thinking when I write. My most consistent writing is my daily journaling practice.

There are several practices I use to keep myself on track toward my vision. Journaling is one of these. Without it, my day would be incomplete, and I would feel disorganized and rattled. As Benjamin P. Hardy says, “Daily, you need to ensure you’re going the direction you want to. If you’re truly committed to those changes, you’ll need to prime yourself daily to be and act from the position of the new reality you’re striving to create.” Journaling is a key component of my daily priming.

There are many benefits of journaling. The biggest one for me is its centering effect. Journaling helps me organize my thoughts into a coherent whole, so they make sense. Doing so brings me a sense of peace, returning me to a feeling that all is right with the world, if my day has left me frazzled or scattered. As I shared in this post, I use a fairly structured approach to the journaling I do each night. That may or may not be the best tactic for you.

Journaling is a very personal practice, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. There are some techniques that can make your journaling more rewarding, however. Most people think of journaling as writing in a blank book or diary. This is what I generally mean when I talk about journaling. For people who better express themselves with drawing or other graphics, journaling doesn’t have to be restricted to the written word.

Here are my top five tips for getting the most out of a journaling practice.

One of my previous journals.
  1. Choose tools you love. As I get close to filling up one blank book, I look forward to selecting my next one. Personally, I don’t use anything fancy, but there are features that I prefer. I usually look for a spiral-bound book because I like to keep my pen there when it is not in use. Beyond that, I want a book that has lines, rather than plain, white pages. Those who incorporate drawing may want unlined pages. Finally, I consider how it makes me feel. Is it peaceful or inviting? Does it have a meaningful quote and/or picture on the front? I want a journal that feels like a treat to use. Some people may prefer to journal electronically, either typing or speaking into a device. This is valid, too. Utilize whatever means of capturing your thoughts, ideas, dreams and musings feels the best. If you are writing or drawing, use a pen that is pleasant and flows smoothly over the page.
  2. Develop a habit. I do most of my journaling right before going to bed. The potential downside to that is that I sometimes doze off while writing. It does help to put everything in place before I go to bed, though. Whether you choose to write at night or some other time, I recommend choosing a consistent time and making it a non-negotiable habit—simply what you do before bedtime, upon awakening or after meditating, for instance.
  3. Include questions. I love questions, both for myself and for my coaching clients. Provocative questions open doors to ideas that might not otherwise present themselves. There are some that I use consistently. Two that I currently find very beneficial are: “What is the boldest leap I took today? And, “What bold leap will I take tomorrow?” The possibilities for your questions are endless. Questions help me reflect on my day and position me to set a powerful intention for the next day before I go to sleep.
  4. Free write when you are so moved. Although there are certain components I include every night, I also free write when I feel like doing so. This is a terrific way to explore and understand my emotions. Sometimes, I do this when I am upset or angry. Sometimes, I do it when I am overwhelmed with gratitude for my many blessings. I simply write from my stream of consciousness. It can be tremendously cathartic, and I recommend trying it.
  5. Record your inspirations, vision, dreams, goals. All of these and more go into my journal. Lately, I have had several bursts of inspiration in the middle of the night. I sleep with my journal, and book light right next to me, so it is easy to reach for them and record the inspiration before I lose it. Similarly, I will write down ideas that come to me on my bike. I try to get them on paper as soon as I can after returning home from a ride. Make your journal your place to express your deepest desires for the future and to spell out your commitment to bringing them to life.

There are so many ways to benefit from journaling. In my experience the most important thing is that your practice is authentic to you. Try my ideas if you are new to journaling or if you want to give journaling a more prominent presence in your life, but, ultimately, your practice should serve you. It should help you grow and increase your ability to live with no regrets because writing your aspirations and sorting out your feelings on paper add clarity to your life. When you are clear, you can take the steps you need to take to turn aspirations to facts in your life.

Catch up with the previous posts in this “Top 5” series:

  1. My energy tips here
  2. My mindset tips here
  3. My well-being tips here
  4. My plant-based nourishment tips here
  5. My meditation tips here

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My Top 5 Tips for Building a Spirit-Nourishing Meditation Practice

Continuing my series of “Top 5” posts, I share here my best tips and most important practices for developing the energy, mindset and well-being to accomplish what we want to accomplish and live with no regrets. If you want to catch up on past posts, you can read my energy tips here,  my mindset tips here, my well-being tips here and my plant-based nourishment tips here.

I want to be clear that I do not consider myself a meditation expert. However, I am proud to have practiced meditation on a consistent, daily basis for the past year and a half. I realize that is nothing compared to many practitioners, who have meditated for decades, but it feels like an achievement to me because I believed for many years that I was incapable of meditating. I realize now that part of the reason for this was my narrow view of what constitutes meditation. Mostly, I have referred to what I am doing as a mindfulness practice, as opposed to a meditation practice. Lately, though, I have come to view mindfulness as a broader state of being, of which my daily meditation practice is a part. I feel like I have developed my own, evolving practice that serves my needs and feeds my spirit. My goal in this post is to share the most helpful strategies I have used for cultivating this practice.

  1. Approach your practice with self-compassion. The single most helpful idea I have come across regarding meditation is contained in these words by Sharon Salzberg: “Beginning again and again is the actual practice, not a problem to overcome so that one day we can come to the ‘real meditation.’” That idea is so freeing and makes so much sense. Much like what I have learned about living in the present moment, rather than waiting for my “real life” to begin at some future point, when everything is in place, Sharon Salzberg’s words encourage me to recognize the value of compassionately beginning again, when my thoughts distract me. The discipline of doing so is the practice. It validates that, as long as I continually release the thoughts when I recognize that they have highjacked my mindfulness and return to my breath, I am meditating exactly as I “should.” There is nothing to correct, and I am experiencing all the benefits of a meditation practice built on commitment and resilience.
  2. Develop a ritual. Make your meditation practice a non-negotiable part of your day. It has become as crucial to my well-being as exercise. I find that it works best for me to practice in the morning, either immediately upon waking or directly following my morning workout, if it is in my downstairs gym. My mindfulness extends to my time on the bike and, to a lesser extent, walking, but this does not replace my daily dedicated practice time. It is bonus time that is often extremely fruitful, yet my day would be incomplete without my meditation ritual. Look at your schedule, decide what works best for you and implement a ritual for getting into the right mental space. Part of my ritual involves solitude, at least mentally. I am pleased to report that I successfully maintained my daily practice while Biking Across Kansas by meditating in my sleeping bag immediately upon waking each morning. Although I was in a room full of people, I found solitude in the darkness. By establishing a clear ritual that includes a time and place, as well as a beginning routine, you will set yourself up to practice consistently.
  3. Open your mind to what meditation can look like, and allow your practice to evolve.  For a long time, I thought meditation was only sitting cross-legged on the floor and releasing all thought. I can’t remember what changed my mind and allowed me to consider a more expansive definition. My health coach training? Maybe. Whatever it was that opened my mind to crafting my own practice, I am grateful. I believe in finding what resonates with you and allowing it to evolve when your instinct leads you in a different or additional direction. My current practice looks like this: I begin with square breathing. Then, I mentally recite my Sankalpa (which I updated after reflection on my 50th birthday). I express gratitude for guidance, wisdom, direction and protection and release what no longer serves me. Affirmations and visualizations help deepen the meaning of m practice. I include a couple Kundalini yoga poses that I find calming. Depending on what I feel I need, I may include Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). I also always choose a quote for reflection before I begin and spend time simply focusing on my breath. This assortment of components really works for me. Experiment and trust your instincts to develop a practice that is uniquely yours. Be open to allowing it to evolve. This has made all the difference for me.
  4. Use a meditation app. I use Insight Timer (free version) and love it. There are others out there, as well as a premium version of Insight Timer. Find what works best for you. The functions I find most useful are the timer, ambient sound and the tracker. I set the time My life is full, and, at this point, I generally set the timer for five to 15 minutes, although I sometimes choose to continue meditating after I hear my ending tone. I like the variety of ambient sounds offered by Insight Timer and vary them day by day. Finally, I feel motivated by the “streak” I have built up on the tracking log (318 days consistently using Insight Timer). Although it is not the reason I meditate, I want to keep my streak going!
  5. Feel and express gratitude for your practice. Recognizing the benefits meditation has bestowed on me, I am deeply grateful for the freedom and dedication to meditate. I feel like a whole world has opened to me. Part of my practice reflects this gratitude. I truly look forward to my daily meditation and feel a burst of excitement in my body when I prepare to practice. I am so thankful that meditation has become part of my life. Remembering this adds depth and richness to, and enhances the benefits of, my practice.

I have been amazed at the benefits I can attribute to my consistent practice. I feel healthier than I have ever been. There are other factors contributing to my well-being, but I believe that my meditation practice has put me over the top, apparently enhancing my immunity and certainly improving my stress-management ability. I am happier and more peaceful. My gratitude for the many blessings in my life is deeper. I still have plenty of room for growth, but I have become a true believer in the power of meditation. I would love to assist you in your journey toward living with no regrets. Connect with me at sheri@justwindcoach.com. You can also click this link to schedule a complimentary coaching call. To connect with others who are interested in living as well as possible, become part of our JustWind Producers of Power & Purpose Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1958072857557272/.

My Top 5 Tips for Plant-Based Nourishment

This post is the fourth in a series of “Top 5” posts, in which I share my best tips and most important practices for developing the energy, mindset and well-being to accomplish what we want to accomplish and live with no regrets. If you missed the others, you can catch my energy tips here,  my mindset tips here and my well-being tips here.

As I have mentioned in some of my other posts, one of the most basic ways I take care of myself is through plant-based nourishment, wich contributes significantly to my energy, mindset and well-being. Here is a very brief overview of the many health benefits of plant-based nutrition.

I hear a lot of questions, concerns and objections to eating plants exclusively. I won’t address all of those here, but I hope these tips will help you understand that it is easy to eat nourishing, delicious plant-based food.

  1. Keep it simple. Use this simple formula for preparing plant-based meals that are tasty and nourishing: Beans + Greens + Grains. You can choose from any number of combinations of these three types of foods to create quick meals that satisfy. One of my favorite examples is black bean burritos. Rinse and drain some black beans (or any bean really). Combine them with spinach and frozen corn in a saucepan. Sprinkle some cilantro and any other seasoning you like into the mixture. Serve as a burrito, on whole-grain tortillas, or as a bowl. It is quick, delicious and full of nutrients.
  2. Find a go-to resource or two for recipes and meal-planning. Two of my favorite are The Engine 2 Diet, which contains a meal-planning matrix for every day of the week, and lighter.world, which allows you to set up a profile of preferences and will then give you three recipe choices each for breakfast, lunch and dinner every day of the week. Whether or not you follow these resources precisely, they are great guides for getting started, as well as for ongoing inspiration. A good plant-based-eating resource (There are countless others. These are just two that I use regularly.) will help you avoid ruts and keep you motivated to stick with your commitment to healthful, compassionate eating.
  3. Be prepared. It is easier than ever to eat a plant-based diet in the mainstream world. However, it still requires some planning and flexibility to do it well. I just finished my 21st trip across Kansas on a bicycle (www.bak.org). Over the years, I have had more and more options to eat, largely because the Board of Directors (of which I am a part) does a terrific job of communicating with the host cities to raise awareness that there will be people with a range of dietary needs and to suggest to them what they can serve vegans and vegetarians in their fundraiser meals. Still, on BAK and in my everyday life, I carry back-up snacks. I don’t function well wen I get hungry, so I make sure I have something to eat if a catered function or restaurant dinner is disappointing or inadequate. Fruit, nuts, nut butter packets and bars (like Macro Bar or ProBar, among many possibilities) are easy to carry and will hold up in a bag or purse. If you are going to be traveling, use an app, like Happy Cow, to find restaurants that are friendly to plant-based eaters.
  4. Ask questions. Just as you need to read labels to make sure there are not sneaky animal-based products in food that you purchase, it is important to ask questions in restaurants or at catered functions and potlucks. It can be done in a friendly, courteous way, such as, “Do your rice and beans contain any animal products, like lard or animal broth?” If you are committed to taking excellent care of your body and/or to living your ethics through plant-based nourishment, it is important to take the initiative to find out if a certain food will meet your needs or not. Your health and ethics are too important to acquiesce to the mainstream, out of fear of offending someone.
  5. Be adventurous. There was a time when I was frequently asked, “So, all you eat is salad?” That was never the case (although a good salad is wonderful), but it is definitely not true now, when there is so much more awareness of, and interest in, plant-based eating. As long as it is made from plants and serves your nutritional needs (minimal added oil, sugar, salt, processed items), be open to trying new food. Just this past weekend, in Holton, KS, a sweet, grandma-looking woman told me that she had “researched diligently” to learn how to make vegan breakfast burritos with tofu, potatoes, onions and a delicious combination of spices. She was adventurous and willing to try a new way of cooking. Those of us eating plant-based should be open to trying new things. Pick a vegetable you have not tried and Google a recipe or preparation instructions. Try tofu and tempeh, if you have not. Experiment with different plant milks (almond, flax, coconut, rice, soy, oat, cashew—endless possibilities!).

There are so many delicious ways to nourish yourself with plants. Commit to the lifestyle, own it proudly and take responsibility for making it work for yourself. Let me know how I can help. Although my primary motivation for being vegan is ethics, health is close behind. I am grateful for my good health and am convinced that the way I eat is a major contributing factor. I would love to assist you in your journey toward living with no regrets. Connect with me at sheri@justwindcoach.com. You can also click this link to schedule a complimentary coaching call. To connect with others who are interested in living as well as possible, become part of our JustWind Producers of Power & Purpose Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1958072857557272/.

50 Life-Shaping Quotes to Celebrate 50 Years

“Three things tell a man: His eyes, his friends and his favorite quotes.”—Quote Daddy

As unbelievable as it is, I am celebrating 50 years on this planet. Several months ago, I decided that I wanted to commemorate the occasion with a special blog post. As I have mentioned in multiple previous posts, words serve as powerful inspiration in my life. I have collected quotes in a series of blank books for 18 years. I am currently working through my sixth volume. I refer to these books every single day for inspiration, reflection, encouragement, growth, strength and so much more. When I considered what kind of 50th-birthday blog post I wanted to share, I landed on the idea of gifting my readers with 50 of the quotes that have been instrumental in shaping my life. I know that there are others who cherish words as much as I do. Whether or not that is true for you, I hope you will enjoy these quotes and my reflections on them. I consider my life and my work in this life to be constantly evolving. I want it that way! The learning I glean through reflection on my quotes is part of what continually transforms me. Although it can sometimes feel like plodding baby steps, I hope that I am making consistent, persistent progress in the direction of living my highest good, greatest self and grandest life. I sincerely hope that these words may serve as fodder for your journey toward those rewards in your own life.

1. “The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” –Michelangelo

These words challenge me to elevate my standards in order to approach my potential for making a difference in the world. I believe that my purpose in life is to optimize my strengths, talents, passions, resources and experience in the service of living and promoting my core values: compassion, excellence, integrity and fitness. Optimization requires elevated standards, and I aspire to reach these high targets.

2. “All things are created twice. There’s a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation of all things. You have to make sure that the blueprint, the first creation, is really what you want—that you’ve thought everything through. Then you put it into brick and mortar. Each day you go to the construction shed and pull out the blueprint to get marching orders for the day. You begin with the end in mind.” –Stephen Covey

Stephen Covey reminds me of the importance of having a plan in place. Without a clear plan, life is haphazard, and the important things are easily neglected. Exercise serves as an example. There is a world of difference between saying, “I’ll work out tomorrow,” and taking steps to get up at 5 a.m. to go for a 50-mile bike ride or scheduling a 6 p.m. walk and being prepared to take it. This is beginning with the end in mind.

3. “Was I better today than yesterday?” –Daniel H. Pink

I have journaled about various version of this question, but the main point is to reflect on my progress each day. Am I making progress? Am I doing what I said I would do? How will I plan to be even better tomorrow?

4. We breathe in faith
  And exhale hopelessness

We breathe in gratitude
        And exhale indifference

We breathe in Beauty
        And exhale insensitivity

We breathe in joy
        And exhale sadness

We breathe in kindness
        And exhale harshness

We breathe in forgiveness
        And exhale resentment

We breathe in love
 And exhale isolation.

—Edwin C. Lynn

For over 10 years, I regularly attended the Unitarian Universalist church. While my spiritual intuition has led me in a more personal direction in recent years, there are aspects of what I learned as a UU that still resonate deeply. This beautiful meditation, with a focus on inhaling the positive and exhaling the negative, is one that I use both personally and with my coaching clients. Sometimes, I shorten it to simply, “I inhale the positive and exhale the negative,” while I focus on my breath. It is a version of releasing what no longer serves me and being open to receive the best the Universe has to offer.

5. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine . . . We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” –Marianne Williamson

This wonderful quote came into my life through the amazing Northern Lights Alternatives AIDS Mastery Workshop, with which I have the deep privilege of being connected. I memorized this quote in the 1990s, when I was working for ConnectCare, an AIDS service organization. Another memory connected with it is meeting three young men in a café in Garnett, Kansas, while we were Biking Across Kansas in the late 1990s or early 2000s. They were cycling across the country, unsupported. We struck up a conversation and actually stayed in communication for a few years. Something inspired me to mention this quote while we were talking. Coincidentally, one of the boys pulled a sheet of paper with these words on it out of his handlebar bag. It was the inspiration for their journey. The most important message for me is that by allowing myself to shine, I am making a contribution to the world by the example I set.

6. “Success is measured by the quality of effort you put forth to do your best. And only you know if you have accomplished that . . . The score cannot make you a loser when you have given it your best effort.” –John Wooden

I am always interested in different ways to define success. John Wooden gave me one of the first alternative ways of viewing it. Rather than being strictly defined by an “A” or being the best at something, I realized true success was doing my very best. That is all I can control. I have used this as a guiding principle in raising my son. I don’t expect perfection, but I do expect him to do his best.

7. “I looked up the road I was going and back the way I came, and since I wasn’t satisfied, I decided to step off the road and cut me a new path.” –Annie Johnson, Maya Angelou’s grandma

When I read this several years ago, it gave me permission to consider a different path. For a few years, I used it in workshops (not related to NLA) I facilitated in the HIV community to help give participants that same permission to step off roads that weren’t working for them.

8. “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” –Viktor Frankl

It is so simple, yet so profound—I have the power to choose how I respond. Recognizing, remembering and acting on this principle can be life changing. We are not victims of our circumstances. We can always choose how we respond.

9. “Good is the enemy of great. And that is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great.” –Jim Collins

This is an important reminder that it is very easy to become complacent. I wonder if I am under this spell right now. It is question I am pondering and struggling to fully discern and resolve. I wrote about this basic idea in this blog post, The Comfort Conundrum.

10. “Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your promotion.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Recognizing that I am in charge of what dwells in my mind was powerful for me. Regardless of what happens, I choose where I place my focus. It can be easier said than done to reject negativity, but just knowing that it is in my power to make the choice to do so gives me hope.

11. “Scientists who study human motivation have lately learned that after basic survival needs have been met, the combination of autonomy (the desire to direct your own life), mastery (the desire to learn, explore and be creative), and purpose (the desire to matter, to contribute to the world) are our most powerful intrinsic drivers—the three things that motivate us most.” –Steven Kotler

I recognize the truth of this statement in my own experience. I even created an acronym for it—AMP. I frequently examine my life to determine the level of autonomy, mastery and purpose it affords me. I recognize that there is a tipping point where not having enough of any one of these things makes life unbearable. That is when motivation to change kicks in. Until it does, we may be subject to the good being the enemy of the great, like Jim Collins says above and of the comfort conundrum I described my blog post last December.

12. “For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin—real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that those obstacles were my life.” –Fr. Alfred D’Souza

These words hit me several years ago like a ton of bricks. I realized that I had been living this way—for so many years, thinking that life was just up ahead, after something had been overcome. Suddenly, I became aware of how many years I had believed this and how it put me at risk for missing my entire life, in the pursuit of something better. Now, as a No Regrets coach, I am committed, not only to living my own life every day, right now, but to helping my clients do that as well. Life is short. Time passes quickly. If we put off living, feeling like we are not yet in our “real” life, we just may miss the opportunity to live it.

13. “I heard someone say once that all our life experiences are either lessons or gifts—that we either learn from our daily experiences or they are simply blessings to be treasured and appreciated. I like that. It means that every moment is an opportunity to grow or to be grateful (or both!).” –Colleen Patrick-Goudreau

What a helpful way to view the experiences in our daily lives! Even when we experience something we would rather not, by recognizing that we can choose to learn from it, we gain power and release any feeling of victimization. Recognizing the gifts we receive every day nurtures a spirit of gratitude, which enriches life in so many ways.

14. “If you say you want this, and you don’t have it, it’s because, at some level, deep down, you’re committed to something else.”—Rich Litvin

This is a profound statement that causes me to get honest with myself. If I have not achieved a goal that I claim I want, to what else am I committed? Is it comfort, history, loyalty, security or something more sinister that I allow to perpetuate in my life? The cause is not out “there” somewhere; it is my own doing or “not doing.” Being clear about this forces me to make a choice. Do I really want this, or do I want something else more right now? The choice and the responsibility are mine.

15. “. . . taking no chances and feeling stuck feels just as bad as taking a chance and making a mistake.” –Mary-Ellen Jacobs

This is another important truth. I have been in this place a couple times in my life. I am at least partly here right now. It is uncomfortable. It is worth remembering that sometimes taking action and risking a mistake is no more painful or unsettling than taking no action and remaining stuck for years. This is a message to myself, as much as anyone. I am still a work in progress.

16. “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” –Mohandas K. Gandhi

Much like Ralph Waldo Emerson reminds us in #10, this reinforces that what we allow into our mindset is a choice. Other people can’t force it on us, no matter what they do or say to us. We have a choice where we focus.

17. “Things that matter most must never be at the mercy of things that matter least.” –Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

This was my mantra for several years. It is still a statement of value that I hold dear. Life can easily take control and cause us to assume that we have no time for things that are very important. Some of the “things that matter most” to me are living a life of compassion; continually striving for excellence and growth and taking the very best care I can of my body, mind and spirit. I must consciously prioritize opportunities for tending to these. Otherwise, something will always get in the way.

18. “Complacency is not okay. Contentment is. They are different.” –Kristin Armstrong

This takes me back to the comfort conundrum. I must ask myself honestly whether I am in a place of true contentment or just settling in complacency. Living my highest good, greatest self and grandest life has no room for complacency.

19. “Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.”—John Wooden

Another piece of wisdom from John Wooden reminds me that I must prioritize what matters and act on it, regardless of what happens in life. There is always some action I can take. I must commit to taking action, even if it cannot be as complete or as perfect as I might prefer.

20. “What’s more frightening: the uncertainty of exploring uncharted territory, or the certainty that if you stay put, you’re imprisoned in mediocrity?”—Iris Krasnow

This is a theme in my life. Some of these other quotes have addressed it. Exploring uncharted territory is scary, but the idea of living with regrets, because I stay stuck in mediocrity, is even scarier. I wrote about it last September.

21. “I hope my achievements in life will be these—that I will have fought for what is right and fair, that I will have risked for that which matters, that I will have helped those in need . . . that the earth will be better place for who I’ve been and what I’ve done.”—C. Hoppe

I framed a card given to me upon graduation with my Bachelor’s degree by a co-worker, Joan, with this quote on the front of it. It hangs in my home today, half a lifetime later, because the words still mean so much to me. They speak to the ideals I held in my 20s and which still mean a lot to me, although they have taken shape in different ways in my life than I originally expected. It is still important to me to make a positive difference in the world.

22. “Your journey has molded you for your greater good, and it was exactly what you needed it to be. Don’t think you’ve lost time. There is not short-cutting to life. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.” –Asha Tyson

This message comforts me because I have often felt that I have wasted time or that my journey has been too winding and wishy-washy, that I haven’t stuck with things that I should have or that I have stuck with things I shouldn’t have. Believing that each step of the journey has been necessary and has helped to shape who I am today helps me to feel like my time has not been wasted. It goes back to #12 and the idea that I am living my life right now.

23. “. . . you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in the future. You have to trust in something—your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”—Steve Jobs

My good friend Dianne sent me this quote during a very painful time in my life about eight years ago. It helped me to gain perspective on my situation and to believe that what I was experiencing would make sense someday. I think it is really what is mentioned above—that each step of my journey shapes who I am and that, as Colleen Patrick-Goudreau says in #13, each experience is either a lesson or a gift or both.

24. “Obstacles are detours in the right direction.”—Gabrielle Bernstein

This was very powerful when I heard Gabby Bernstein say it in an audiobook. The things that get in our way can help us to end up on the right road, either by rerouting us, turning us around or stopping us. The key, of course, is being able to discern right action when faced with obstacles and then taking that action.

25. My thoughts shape my perception, determine my actions and behaviors and create the world I envision. —My longtime mantra to remind me of the power of my thoughts and the critical importance of choosing them wisely

I recently realized that I paraphrased this years ago from another Colleen Patrick-Goudreau quote. It has helped me through SO MANY scary situations and daily reminds me how significant my thoughts are to shaping the kind of day and, truly, the kind of life I live.

26. “Time wasted rationalizing the mediocre could be time spent creating the magnificent.”—Jen Sincero

This is huge. It is harder for me to implement than to acknowledge, but it is so true. Rather than rationalize why I should stay in a certain situation, I can take the plunge and create something amazing. The time will pass regardless. What am I going to do about it?

27. “The truth you are pursuing is as important as the evolution of the universe itself, for it enables evolution to continue.” –Fr. Carl in James Redfield’s The Celestine Prophecy

I rarely read fiction, but I read The Celestine Prophecy when I was in my 20s, upon the recommendation of someone I admired. I actually ended up reading it twice, which I also rarely do. This quote validated for me the importance of living with integrity and making the changes in my life necessary to do that. I realized that I had, not only the privilege of doing so, but a responsibility to do so, in order to help the Universe progress in a positive direction.

28. “Let me tell you what I think of bicycling. I think it has done more to emancipate women than anything else in the world . . . It gives a woman a feeling of freedom and self-reliance . . . The moment she takes her seat, she knows she can’t get into harm unless she gets off her bicycle, and away she goes, the picture of free, untrammeled womanhood.” –Susan B. Anthony

I LOVE this quote! That is how I feel on my bike—the picture of free, untrammeled womanhood. It is where I feel most liberated and most alive. It is my most important mental health strategy and a vital source of inner peace.

29. “A meaningful life is a stressful life.”—Kelly McGonigal

This was a real eye-opener for me. I had long believed that stress was something to avoid. Kelly McGonigal’s life-changing (for me) book The Upside of Stress helped me understand that the things that cause me the most stress in life—work (and all that means) and family—are also the things that make life most meaningful. Eliminating the stress would eliminate the meaning. The goal, then, is a mindset shift to view stress as a challenge, not a negative, health-damaging condition. Again, this can be easier said than done, but the concept is a powerful one.

30. “I love the wind in my face, the burning in my legs and lungs, the smell of sweat mixed with sunscreen. I love the knowledge that I would rather brave the elements—rain, heat, cold—than stay home and miss my liberty.”—Kristin Armstrong

Although she was talking about running, I totally relate to this sentiment in regard to cycling (and there was a day when it applied to running for me, too). There are limits to what I am willing to endure, but they are fairly broad. Cycling is truly my liberty. I know that I will feel better if I ride than if I don’t, even if it comes with a large dose of Kansas wind or other challenging elements.

31. “. . . be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves . . . Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” –Rainer Maria Rilke

I first came across this quote shortly after 9/11, and it helped me to make some level of peace with not understanding why the tragedy happened. Since then, it has helped me to have patience when I have not been able to quickly or easily resolve an issue or a question with which I am struggling. I like resolution. Uncertainty is hard and uncomfortable for me. Thinking of Rilke’s words, I can relax just a bit and start to trust that there may be a reason that I have not yet found an answer.

32. “Confidence is a result, not a requirement.”—Rich Litvin

This is a powerful statement. I don’t have to have confidence to take on a challenge; I will acquire it by facing my challenges boldly. Confidence is born in the action.

33. “I am grateful that my life is full of rich, rewarding, interesting, exciting and meaningful activities and opportunities.” –my personal mindset intervention mantra to move from a mindset of overwhelm and busyness to one of gratitude

Mindset is key to so much of how we experience the world. If I hold the mindset that life is a burden, it will be a burden. On the other hand, I can choose to be grateful for the fullness of my life. This changes my experience of it significantly. I use a similar mindset intervention when I buy groceries, one of my least favorite tasks. When I focus on how much I dislike the activity, it feels heavy and burdensome. When I repeat the mantra, “I am grateful that I have money to buy nourishing food,” it feels more like a privilege than a chore.

34. “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”—Jack Canfield

This struck me as so profound when I first heard it. Choosing to step over fear and try is what is required in order to achieve my most important goals. Until I take that step, my desires and goals and dreams may as well be behind the steepest, most inhospitable mountain range.

35. “You do what you can do, as competently as possible within a reasonable time frame, and then you let it go.” –Elizabeth Gilbert

Reading these words at the right time practically saved my sanity, if not my life, or at least my health. I have them on a sticky note above my computer at work. I say them to myself during the several months each year that I have appointments with students all day, every day and get depressingly far behind on email. These beautiful words reminded me that all I could do was my best. Now, there is a bigger issue of how long I choose to remain in this situation, but, while I do, Gilbert’s words soothe and settle me.

36. “Take your life off pause.”—seen on an Urban League Kansas sign several years ago

I need to check in regularly to ask myself if my life is on pause. Am I waiting for something to happen to really start living? Am I stalled? If so, which button will take me off pause?

37. “Long have you timidly waded, holding a plank by the shore, Now I will you to be a bold swimmer . . .”–Walt Whitman

This is another version of taking my life off pause. No more timid waiting! It is time to be bold and live life fully.

38. “How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.”—Annie Dillard

Yes! But, this was hard for me to see until Dillard pointed it out. What I do every day matters because those days add up to create my life.

39. “Success is peace of mind that is the direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming.” –John Wooden

This is another version of John Wooden’s view of success. Recognizing it as self-satisfaction, rather than some external measure or grade or status is freeing and empowering for me. I decide if I am successful, nothing nor no one else.

40. “Pushing your body, mind, and heart to their limits creates a cathartic ‘clearing,’ a ‘centering’ effect in your being, in your soul. If you can find something that brings you there, use it. It will bring to your day a richness of experience and a fullness of self . . . That raw feeling doesn’t last for long; it’s not supposed to, but its remnant angels provide guidance, focus and energy for future adventures.” -Bruce Springsteen

While Springsteen was referring to performing, I relate to this primarily in cycling. The energy I gain from working hard and challenging myself on the bike makes me a better, more effective human in every other aspect of my life.

41. “In this life there are scary things and there are beautiful things and they are not always different.” –Zack Grey

This is so important to remember. Sometimes the most beautiful things are also the scariest to pursue. (Everything I want is on the other side of fear, remember?)

42. “You can have your excuses, or you can have success. You can’t have both. –Jen Sincero

I love Jen Sincero. She tells it like it is, no holding back. Sometimes that is what I need to help me get honest with myself. Which is more important—my excuses (and the safety they bring) or my success (as measured by myself)? Sincero forces me to choose, if I am to live with integrity.

43. “Fitness is advocacy.”—my vegan athlete mantra

We all have different ways of living our values in the world. I believe that one of the ways I am meant to live my value of compassion is to combine it with my value of fitness. When I live a healthy, vibrant, active life as a vegan, I show others who may be skeptical what is possible. They may choose to reject the message, but my fitness can speak for itself and help to save animals and humans at the same time. I am contributing a chapter to an upcoming book on cycling and veganism, and this is my primary theme. It is one of the major ways I make a difference in the world.

44. “I am. Two of the most powerful words—for what you put after them shapes your reality.”—Healing Light

How do I choose to self-identify? The identity I claim—and embody—creates my life.

45. “. . . I have an unshakable belief that each of us has not only the potential to live a rewarding and purposeful life, but also the responsibility to do so.” –Bill Strickland

Reading these words many years ago helped me to honor my belief that living a truly rewarding life matters. It is part of my obligation to excellence, part of how I express gratitude for the many gifts I have been given, rather than squandering them by failing to stretch myself.

46. “And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom.” –Anais Nin

I have loved this quote for ages because it speaks the truth to me. I think it often requires reaching a point where it is too painful not to change before we take the steps to do so. Some might call this hitting rock bottom. It can be that, but it doesn’t have to be. It can also be just reaching a point when the mediocrity becomes unbearable. Honestly, I sometimes wish for a catalyst that would push me to that point because it can be so hard to overcome the inertia and make significant changes without reaching that pain point.

47. “Kansas doesn’t have a lot of women like you . . . so you are such a leader here. And that you went biking after an accident is just an example of this tenacity and leadership.” — Kris Stiegler, 5/10/15

I hesitated to include this one because it feels like bragging, but I decided to include it because it meant so much to me, and I have not forgotten it. It was a comment by my friend Kris (briefly a Kansan) on a Facebook post I had made while hiding out in a lake bathroom after getting caught on my bike in a scary thunderstorm (on Mother’s Day!) that came out of nowhere. I mentioned that I had been trying to dry my cycling gloves with the bathroom hand dryer because they were soaked and causing the steri-strips I had gotten in the ER the previous night to come loose. It wasn’t a serious accident, just a nasty cut on my hand from my son’s drawing table. Kris’ words helped me to remember that what I do matters (Fitness is advocacy!). It would have been easy to skip my bike ride because I had a sore hand, but by choosing to ride, I honored my values and my liberty. Kris’ comment meant a lot to me. I know plenty of strong Kansas women, but I was deeply honored that she considered me one of them.

48. “Our bodies are apt to be our autobiographies.”—Frank Gelett Burgess

It is powerful to recognize this, own it and decide what it means for us. Our bodies do tell the stories of our lives. Whether it is the C-section scar that is a physical sign of giving birth to my son or my level of fitness that indicates to what extent I have been putting in the work to allow my body to perform optimally or my bike tan that is evidence of miles in the saddle, my body is a physical indicator of what I have been doing with my life. This is true whether it is a choice I make or something that happens to me. When our bodies show signs of trauma or illness, we can choose to own that and wear it as a badge of honor in our strength to persevere. When our bodies show signs of our own neglect or ill treatment, we can make a powerful choice to recognize that and use it as a springboard for change. We must make peace with our bodies as they currently exist and decide what the next chapter in our unfolding autobiography will be and then start writing it through our choices and actions.

49. “For what it’s worth: It’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of and if you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.” –F. Scott Fitzgerald

These words led me in a new, determined direction. By asking myself if I am proud of how I am living in key aspects of my life, I have the power (and, I believe, obligation) to make a different choice, if I am not. This concept leads me to ask, “If not, what needs to change? What immediate action MUST I take in order to avoid living with regret?”

50. “As you look forward, try also to imagine what it will be like looking back at the end your life and what is it you will most wish you had done.”—Anne-Marie Slaughter

As a No Regrets Coach, this really speaks to me. I think asking ourselves this question can help us establish priorities. If there is something that we can see is likely to become a regret if we do not do it, I think it is important to find a way to do it, create it, make it happen in our lives. Regret scares me too much. Knowing this, I feel a responsibility for doing what I can to eliminate if from my life.

These are certainly not the only quotes that mean a lot to me. My extensive collection is constantly evolving. If I were to write an updated post 10 years down the road, I wonder how different it would look. I am deeply committed to lifelong learning, and introspection through meaningful quotes is part of that lifelong learning and growth. I hope these quotes speak to you in a powerful way and that they can be part of your learning and growth, as well. Thank you for allowing me to share them with you!

“The best quotes don’t speak to one particular truth, but rather to universal truths that resonate—across time, culture, gender, generation, and situation—in our own hearts and minds. They guide, motivate, validate, challenge and what us in our own lives. They reiterate what we’ve figured out and remind us how much there is yet to learn . . . Most of all, they tell us we’re not alone. Their existence is proof that others have questioned, grappled with, and come to know the same truths we question and grapple with, too.”—Cheryl Strayed

My Top 5 Tips for Creating True Well-Being

This post is the third in a series of “Top 5” posts, in which I share my best tips and most important practices for developing the energy, mindset and well-being to accomplish what we want to accomplish and live with no regrets. If you missed the first two, you can catch my energy tips here and my mindset tips here.

What does “well-being” mean to you? For me, “well-being” means excellent physical and mental health, accompanied by a deep sense of inner peace and confidence that comes from living my purpose. It may mean something different to you, but my guess is that it encompasses some of the same elements.

Much like mindset, I find that well-being requires constant attention and maintenance. It is not a destination that I reach and remain, without additional effort. However, these are some of the habits and practices that I have found to be crucial components of my well-being:

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  1. Live a vegan lifestyle. Not only is eating plants the most health-promoting way of nourishing my body, but it also allows me to live my most important value—compassion. Living my values is part of well-being for me. Doing so promotes inner peace. I believe that all of us—human and non-human—are the subjects of our own lives. While we enhance our lives by choosing to serve others in a variety of ways, no one—human or non-human—is on this planet to be used by others. By eating plants, my conscience is free, and I feel good about what I am putting into my body. Not long ago, someone asked me if I would get sick if I ate meat. I answered that I might, since my body is accustomed to plants. I have been vegetarian since 1982 and vegan since 2008. But, even more than potential physical effects, I told her it would be very emotionally upsetting. Even the thought makes me feel queasy. Compassion is such an important value to me that violating it would seriously compromise my well-being. Cultivating well-being in our lives requires an honest examination of our conscience, as well as asking ourselves what choices truly support health and inner peace.
  2. Move my body daily. Physical activity plays a dual role in my life, too. Besides keeping me physically healthy, movement is one of the most important factors in my well-being. It makes an unbelievable difference in my mental health. Research has shown exercise to be at least as effective as pharmaceutical anti-depressants, in many situations. It is my biggest stress reliever. Finding a type of exercise that you enjoy is most important. It is valuable to incorporate a variety of types of exercise, including cardiorespiratory exercise, resistance training and flexibility work. It doesn’t have to be complicated, though. Finding something that you will do on a regular basis is more important than constructing a perfect training plan. (If you want more precision, hire a coach with experience in physical training or a personal trainer.) It is better to do something than to have a perfect plan that you don’t execute. A friend recently posted this quote on her Facebook page: “Cycling isn’t a hobby for me. It’s my inner peace.” I absolutely relate.
  3. Practice mindfulness and meditation. Consistently implementing a morning mindfulness practice that includes meditation has made a tremendous difference in my well-being. I have felt, and been, healthier in the past year than I probably ever have. My resistance to colds has been strong. While everything I mention in this post plays into my physical health, I think committing to my mindfulness practice has ratcheted it up another notch. Part of that is probably due to (presumably, based on how I feel emotionally) lower levels of stress hormones circulating in my body. High levels of stress hormones are associated with inflammation, which contributes in a wide array of health problems. Reducing inflammation by decreasing dietary stress on the body (See item #1.) and through increasing inner peace through mindfulness and meditation truly can keep us healthier.
  4. Honor my passions. Some people think that honoring our passions as adults is selfish. I disagree. I think our passions are critical aspects of who we are and are key avenues through which we grow and develop. If there is something that excites you, take time to learn about it and engage in it. Passions come in a lot of different forms. Mine include cycling, reading, writing and contributing to the creation of a healthier, more compassionate world through building my coaching business and living a vegan lifestyle. I grow through all these activities. Ignoring them would leave a void in my life. I believe that they excite me for a reason, and I have both the privilege of, and responsibility for, honoring them. I am a better person when I do. Your passions—those things that truly excite and ignite you, those things that won’t leave you alone—are also there for a reason. Honor them to become more of who you are meant to be and enhance your well-being.
  5. Engage in regular introspection. I am an introvert, which simply means that I energize by spending time and space alone. It is exhausting to be around people constantly, without some time alone. Introspection is one of the treats of my time alone. When my son was young, one of the most difficult aspects of parenting for me was feeling like I could never be alone in my head because of constant noise and company. My bike rides were my salvation (and they still are, even though life is different now). They were the only way I could get a little time on my own to be in my head. Whether or not you are an introvert, there is value in introspection. It is how we figure out who we are, what we think, what we believe, what is most important to us. Journaling is a great way to be introspective, and I do it at least nightly, but my time on my bike, where I can think freely is another terrific opportunity to be introspective. I love to think about a question as I ride. It could be anything that helps me understand more about what matters to me. For example, “What is clearly no longer serving me?” was a recent question I pondered on the bike. This helped me make some important decisions. Experiment with the best ways for you to ask yourself key questions and spend time examining them. It will be good for your well-being.

While your definition of “well-being” may be different than mine, I encourage you to try my tips and see how you feel. My guess is that you will feel better, even if you just incorporate one of my tips into your life. If you choose to include them all, I expect that you will feel exponentially better. These tips are not miracles or cure-alls. I do not live in a perfect state of well-being. However, my state of well-being is much more consistent and persistent than it was prior to prioritizing these things in my life.

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I would love to help you improve your well-being. Contact me at sheri@justwindcoach.com or 316-259-9728, if you would like a complimentary coaching call. You can also click this link to schedule an appointment. To connect with others who are interested in living as well as possible, become part of our JustWind Producers of Power & Purpose Facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1958072857557272/.